Offence is a fence that stagnates. It keeps you marking time spiritually and normally in prison if you have not let go of that hurt. Offence keeps you going in circles and making you act ineffectively and inefficiently.
Many have become victims of the offended, not the offender because in most cases the people who we claim offended us may have acted unintentionally. Take for example somebody acting corrosively towards you out of stress and depression and you’re being offended by that very predisposition. What about somebody who is broken-hearted and disappointed, if such a person should deal with you in a very bad and foul way, how are you going to handle it?
I believe before we come to a concrete conclusion that we have been offended and demand apology, we must come to grips with the above assertion that OFFENCE IS RELATIVE or maybe need I say the origin of the supposed offence is not really an offence in the first place, like we have said earlier it’s unintentional… We must then be thoughtful, introspective, analytical of every act, attitude, disposition towards us so that we don’t end up misconstruing and misjudging an innocent and harmless behaviour. We may end up being fenced and incarcerated in holes and bars of pointless assertions simply because we took an act at face value without digging deep into the root of the matter.
Before you get offended and blow your lid off, take time to be sure your anger is justified and your misgiving is forthright and just.
Wrong judgment is more like a weight which robs a man of spiritual soundness and in most cases impacts negatively on a person. If you allow wrong judgment to feed into your discretion it will end up tarnishing you. It’s time to separate the wheat from the chaff and take away the dross from the silver by fairly and soundly forgiving and letting go of an offence.
With this said, let me add that Offences will definitely come but how we handle and take it will go a long way of influencing us in so many respects. If we handle things the way we ought to, it is for our good, otherwise, it is to our detriment. Offence can make or unmake us. Offence if not properly handled can lead to retrogression.
Matthew 18:7 Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!
Luke 17:1 Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!